Mindfulness in Relationships: Deep Listening

This article was published on: 07/27/20 1:49 PM

Mindfulness in relationships is probably the most challenging part of conscious living, whereas to understand ourselves better we must look at the mirror that reflects only when interacting with others. That gets harder when someone’s behavior triggers us. To become less reactive and more receptive, we have to destroy the barriers that separate us from other beings and slowly peel off the layers of defense (our Egos).


What do we understand by ‘Mindfulness’? 

The ability to remain in the present moment with a curious and open attitude whatsoever is happening in our lives is known as mindfulness. When we bring this awareness into our relationships we are exposed to fully experience whatever someone or a situation has to offer. To absorb the beauty of the present we must break old conditioning patterns. When we start living by the heart instead of living in the mind, we will be able to recognize every situation and creature as Divine. That takes time, but there are many simple techniques we can start implementing in our daily lives that will help dissipate limiting beliefs and remove social conditioning.

The podcast below is a reflection of some of the most common questions arising while we try to implement mindfulness in our interactions with people and some possible answers. The podcast is recorded by Jessica Multini and Al Jefferey during a deep friends’ conversation. A great brainstorm of mindful practices that will enhance our awareness of the way we treat our beloved ones as well as providing different meditation techniques to cultivate creativity and lucidness.

When we speak to others is as if we are speaking to ourselves, we are totally one with them. To nurture receptiveness and unlimited openness will have a tremendous impact on our relationships because we will have to go through a great transformation before we can master them. 


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So, how do we start bringing mindfulness into relationships?

When we love, admire and appreciate someone, there is a byproduct effort to keep a solid and stable bond. But sometimes we don’t resonate with someone as much, and there can be a lack of action towards creating a safe space for them to express, release or share their emotions. Everyone needs to voice their perspective on life, to feel comprehended or at least, be heard.  Listening attentively is not a skill that everyone has developed. But what does it mean to listen?


Deep listening is a technique that can be learned, practiced and mastered. Be it with intimate partners, working colleagues, lovers, friends or strangers, deep listening is a method that will simply bring you closer to everyone.

To listen deeply what others have to say, we must deactivate the automated pilot not with the aim of finding a good answer to what we hear, but to identify meaning in togetherness and be part of the magic created with words. The art of listening has one unique purpose; making sense of the words and plunge into their depth.

Humanity is going through a collective change where compassion, empathy, and understanding have pivotal importance. With what purpose we’ve been separated by walls, religions or ideals? We have failed to satisfy our cravings with material things and we’ve realized that what we are longing for is a deep connection. Our misery comes from the interrupted connection with the higher consciousness that embraces us all. We suffer because of a lack of a vital connection with ourselves.

How can we restore peace among races and genders? How to make the space to create quality time with our beloved ones?  Adopting attitudes and practices that will help provide longlasting, healthy relationships are the basic steps we can take to enter the new dimension of thoughts and actions leading to a united community.

Article by Annamaria V. Gordobil